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January 16, 2004
Everybody but Ourselves

by Hamayun Khan

Look at that sister, she hasn't covered her head
Lower your gaze, follow what the Prophet said

He shaves! That brother doesn't have a beard
Leave it to Allah, only he's to be feared

Too many sins, He's so perverted!
He doesn't know, he recently converted

He's a wannabee Kafir, his hair's so poofy
Leave him alone, he just took off his koofi

Too many mistakes: she doesn't know how to read
Then go there and teach her proper Tajwid

He has no sincerity, he does things for show
Your not the Almighty, how do you know?

What is he doing? He looks so goofy
His doing dhikr, he's a Sufi

Bida! Bida! He doesn't follow the Sunnah
Look at yourself, you don't even attend Jummah!

We're so quick to pick out the faults in others
without looking at ourselves first. By becoming
critics we do more harm than good. We become part of
the problem rather than the solution of it. And
besides we cannot always judge our brothers and
sisters by the way things appear externally. There may
be some reason as to why a brother or sister is doing
something that may not appear Islaamic. Our ignorance
exacerbates these types of situations. And in cases
where doubts arise, the benefit of the doubt should be
given to our fellow brother and sister. For example,
when a brother is seen not to have a beard, we
shouldn't readily come to the conclusion that he
shaves and is a sinner. We should make excuses for our
brother by saying that maybe he cannot grow facial
hair. So the next time we are tempted to criticize
others, let us take a deep look at ourselves first,
and try to overlook our brothers' faults. If anything,
we should help our fellow brothers and sisters out
without embarrassing them. There is no denying that we
are all guilty of this. I will be the first to admit
that I am probably the guiltiest of it. But I ask
Allah to forgive me and guide to the Siratal
Mustaqeem. I ask Allah to do the same for the rest of
the Ummah.

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very nice Mashallah. Beautifully put :"Everybody but ourselves..." May Allah(swt) grant us Hidaya. Ameen

Posted by: Nadia at December 6, 2003 11:58 AM

As-salamu 'Alaikum Warahmatullah ,
Nice....I think we (writers and commentators) on hidayaonline were guilty of this too but it looks like we're finally "changing lanes" :)- May Allah (swt) grant us hidaya - Ameen.

Posted by: Tanweer at December 6, 2003 03:35 PM

Of course, everything in Islam requires a balance including acting ourselves and giving Nasiha.

From Tameem ad-Daaree who said: Allaah's Messenger (Sallallaahu 'Alayhi Wa Sallam) said: The Religion is sincerity. The Religion is sincerity. The Religion is sincerity. We said: For whom, O Messenger of Allaah (Sallallaahu 'Alayhi Wa Sallam) He said: For Allaah, and His Book, and His Messenger, and for leaders of the Muslims, and their general masses. [Related by Muslim-Kitaabul Eemaan (33, 55) and (1/74). Abu Daawood (no. 4944), (5/233). Ahmad (4/102-103). Nisaa`ee (7/140)] al-Haafidh Ibn Hibbaan said: The faithful and sincere adviser has a distinguishing sign: when he wishes to enhance the one whom he is advising, he advises him privately. However, the sign of the one who wishes to disgrace him is that he advises him in public. [Rawdatul Uqalaa (p. 196)]

Sufyaan Ibn ’Uyaynah (d.198H) – rahimahullaah – said:

“He whose sin is due to desire, then have hope for him; and he whose sin is due to pride, then fear for him. Because Aadam (’alayhis-salaam) sinned due to desire, and he was forgiven; and Iblees sinned due to pride, and he was cursed.” [Related by Imaam adh-Dhahabee in Siyar A’laamun-Nubalaa (8/471)]


’Alee Ibn Abee Taalib (radiyallaahu ’anhu) said:

“Your brother is one who – if he brings a calamity upon you sometimes, then he does not cease having mercy upon you. Your brother is not the one who – if your affairs become disrupted – starts abusing and insulting you.” [Related by Ibn Katheer in al-Bidaayah wan-Nihaayah (7/128]

Imaam al-Hasan al-Basree (d.110H) – rahimahullaah – said, when he came across a group of people disputing:

“These ones have become tired of worship, speaking has become easy for them, and their piety has diminished, and that is why they talk.” [Related by Ahmad in az-Zuhd (p. 272) and by Aboo Nu’aym in al-Hilyatul-Awliyaa (2/156)]

Iyaas Ibn Mu’aawiyah (d.122H) – rahimahullaah – said:“There is no one who does not know his own faults, except that he is stupid.” It was said to him, ‘Then what is your shortcoming?’ He said, “Too much talk.” [Related by Aboo Nu’aym al-Asbahaanee in al-Hilyatul-Awliyaa (3/124)]

Posted by: Oh. Schick aka Ali Ibn Masood at December 6, 2003 04:25 PM

Very nice Navigator Masha'allah. Excellent points you pointed out and it's true, as has been stated, that we are more willing to point out other peoples' faults and not look at ourselves at all. Remember when you point a finger at someone, there are 4 pointing back at you. Maybe next time, I'll write a post about duties of brother(sister)hood in Islam :)

Keep up the good work

Posted by: Arif at December 6, 2003 07:53 PM


great article, great point.

Wajahat Gilani

Posted by: Wajahat Gilani at December 7, 2003 12:53 AM

maha allah exellently put

Posted by: Amr bin Muhamed Gharib at December 8, 2003 06:39 AM


Humayun Man... YM needs you to contribute to some of our publications as well!!!!!!!!!!!! I hope Hidaya doesn't got copyrights...hehe

at least post on the discussion board!


Posted by: Azeem Khan at December 20, 2003 08:05 PM

*cough* scroll to the bottom of the page *cough*


Posted by: Talal at December 20, 2003 08:41 PM