A year old yet still good...
When I was younger I used to pretend I was She-Ra (we can substitute that with Aisha) and would practice fighting with a fake sword. The real thing cant be that different right.
Eid Mubarak.on November 13, 2004 3:27 AM
Asalaam Aleikum Warahmatullah Wabaraktu,
Heh...I was just thinking of this article. Saves me the trouble of writing the 'Happy Eid' article ;)
Kulla Aamun wa entum bi khairun.
btw, when I was little I used to dream I was a ninja turtle...now I'm on my way to becoming a ninja turtle. Alhamdullilah.
on November 13, 2004 5:21 AM
Waslaam Warahmatullah Wabarakatu
Taqabbala minna wa minkum
Eid Mubarak everyone!!
A little late but better late than never I guess.
Eid Mubarak Everyone.on November 14, 2004 9:05 PM
Assalam o Alaikum!
In the name of ALLAH the most Beneficient the most Merciful
This is what my idea is to help the Ummah and Islam.
We need to think about how we can contribute to help the world. In most gatherings, I hear people complaining about how the politicians are corrupt. They talk about the corruption in leadership in Islamic countries. I think it time for us to take some action.
There are brothers from all over the Muslim world attending Rutgers, Alhumdurilla. We need brothers who are sincere, mature, practicing the Islamic deen according to Quran and Sunnah, who have broken free from Television and music, attend the mosque as often as possible, have strong morals, avoid what is harm and doubtful, and do everything for the sake of Allah. We need at least one brother from each country who has this characteristic to step forward for the sake of Allah. We also need the brothers who are not currently at this level but want to work towards achieving this goal.
What I am about to ask these brothers to do is not going to be easy. These brothers will have to be willing to sacrifice their lives for the sake of Allah (SWT). Once we have the group of brothers that are willing to sacrifice their life in this Dunyia for the sake of Allah in order to achieve something way better than this world can ever provide These brothers would need to sit down and come up with a goal to reform the Muslim Ummah. The group will meet every week and hand in a summary of what they have done to get closer to this goal. There will be a selected date chosen by the majority for when these entire brothers will have to implement this project.
What is the project you ask? This project is very difficult but with the help of Allah it can be implemented. The project would be reform the muslim Ummah in the Islamic countries to accept Islamic government, which would rule according to the Quran and Sunnah, according to the Islamic Shariah. Teach the Ummah about standing up for the truth for sake of Allah, even if they have to sacrifice their lives. The brothers in the group will finish their education. They will keep meeting every week even after graduation. If they are far away, they will have to keep in contact and submit their weekly logs. The group will also be open to other brothers who are interested in joining cause. Once the selected date is reached the brothers will have to go to their native homeland. They will start the project from their neighborhood. They will try to unite their neighborhood. Teach people about the benefits about doing something for the sake of Allah for others in the neighborhood. Teach them to stand up for truth. Make their neighborhood an example for others that come from different neighborhoods so that they would want this same movement in their neighborhood.
Sooner or later Inshallah there will be a true Islamic government established. The worst thing that may happen is that a brother is assassinated for working in the sake of Allah. Only thing that is actually really hard to deal with is if people are ignorant.
"We need brothers who are sincere, mature, practicing the Islamic deen according to Quran and Sunnah, who have broken free from Television and music, attend the mosque as often as possible, have strong morals, avoid what is harm and doubtful, and do everything for the sake of Allah."
The single sisters fully support your quest for these brothers.on November 16, 2004 11:03 AM
Well these sincere brothers will need pious wifes who are willing to support them in there efforts and live for the after life.on November 16, 2004 11:17 AM
while we're on the topic of setting near wali-like standards for brothers who are looking to get married...
The Prophet (saas)'s manner of walking
Abu Huraira (ra) reports:
"I did not see anyone more handsome than Rasulullah (saas). It was as if the brightness of the sun had shone from his blessed face. I did not see anyone walk faster than him, as if the earth folded for him. A few moments ago he would be here, and then there. We found it difficult to keep pace when we walked with him and he walked at his normal pace."
One of Ali (ra)'s grandchildren, Ibrahim bin Muhammad (ra), says that the Prophet (saas) had an easy manner of walking:
When 'Ali (ra) described Rasulullah (saas), he used to say: 'When he walked, because of the speed and force of the legs, it seemed as if he was descending from a high place'."
Hassan (ra) describes how:
"When he walked, he lifted his legs with vigour, leaned, slightly forward and placed his feet softly on the ground. He walked at a quick pace and took a rather long step. He did not take small steps. When he walked it seemed as if he was descending to a lower place. When he looked at something, he turned his whole body towards it. He always looked down. His blessed glance was focused more to the ground than towards the sky. His noble habit was to look at something with a slight glance. He made salaam (greeted) first to whomsoever he met."
The Prophet (saas)'s manner of sitting
Qaylah bint Makhramah (ra) reports:
"I saw Rasulullah (saas) in the masjid (in a very humble posture) sitting. Due to his awe-inspiring personality, I began shivering."
Jaabir bin Samurah (ra) says:
"I observed Rasulullah (saas) lean on a pillow, which was on his left side."
The Prophet (saas)'s way of speaking
The Prophet (saas) was a man known for his effective, wise and concise manner of speaking. His messages had a great effect on people, and everyone took great pleasure in talking with him. A number of accounts that have come down from his companions also confirm that fact. These are some of them:
"The Prophet (saas) was the greatest of the Arabs in oratory and beauty of speech. He said: 'I am the greatest orator among the Arabs'."
Aisha (ra) describes the Prophet (saas)'s way of speaking thus:
"The speech of Rasulullah (saas) was not quick and continuous as that of yours. He spoke clearly, word by word."
"They said: 'The Messenger of Allah used to talk little and every thing was expressed in this brief talk. In his speech, there was no defect of excess or brevity. The words came one after another like pearls. Whoever heard them remembered them. He was the sweetest in talk among his companions. He used to keep silent for long and not talk without necessity. He used not to talk evil words and what he talked was just."
"He did not use ornamental words…."
"… His companions did never dispute before him."
"He used to smile much before his companions…"
Aisha (ra) again says:
"He spoke in such a way that the words were spaced out so that those who sat with him remembered them."
Abdullah bin Haarith (ra) reports that:
"I have not seen anyone who makes a person more cheerful than Rasulullah (saas)."
Anas bin Malik (ra) tells us the following:
"Rasulullah (saas) used to mingle with us and joke."
Some of the Prophet (saas)'s finer traits
"The Holy Prophet (saas) was the most patient among men, the bravest, the best judge, and he who pardoned most. ... he was the most charitable man. He did not pass a single night hoarding a single dirham or dinar. Whenever any excess money came to him and if he did not then get anyone to accept it as charity, he did not return home till he gave it to the poor and the needy. He did not store up for more than a year the provision of his family members which Allah was pleased to give him. He used to take one fifth of what easily came to him out of dates and wheat. What remained in excess, he used to give in charity. He used to give away in charity to him who begged of him of anything, even out of his stored up provision.
He did not take any revenge for personal wrongs but he used take it for preservation of the honor of Allah.
He used to speak the truth even though it was sometimes a cause of trouble to himself and his companions.
He was the most modest, without pride, and his tongue was most eloquent without prolongation of speech. His constitution was the most beatiful. No worldly duties could keep him busy.
He used to go even to a distant place to see the sick, loved scents and hated a stench or bad smell, sat with the poor and the destitute, ate with them, honored those possessing honor, advised them to do good and show kindness to relatives. He did not treat harshly to anybody and accepted excuses offered to him.
He accepted sports and pastimes as lawful, played with his wives and held races with them.... He did not hate the poor for their poverty nor fear the kings for their mighty power. He used to call the people, high or low towards Allah. Allah adorned him with all the qualities and good administration
At the time when the Quran was being revealed to him, he used to smile most. When something happened, he entrusted it to Allah, kept himself free from his own strength and ability and said in invocation: 'O Allah, show me truth in a true manner or give me grace to give it up. You guide to the straight path whomsoever You will.'
Allah revealed the Quran to him and through it He taught him good manners."
Good point br. Gillette...
Br. Z: Please add these characteristics to your list.
I know it seems unpractical for women to aim for someone like our beloved Rasool (may Allah bless him and give him peace), but if we dont set him as the bullseye there is no way we will come even 'close' to finding someone who strives for the sunnah (and yes, we are all aware that there is no human as perfect as him.). Its like archery, you have to aim for the bullseye in order to hit the target at all. Besides, can you think of a better target?
Brothers, the problem isnt that we have too many sisters that aim for someone who embodies the sunnah, the problem is that we have too little. Women are all too often willing to sacrifice religious standards for the sake of duniya. A woman who aims for a sunnah-abiding man is the same woman who will put all of her effort into making the next generation into sunnah-abiding muimins. You want to find brothers who have the qualities on Br. Z's list? Find a woman who loves the sunnah and marries the sunnah and then fast-forward 20 years. InshaAllah wa mashaAllah, you will find the brothers you are looking for.
WasalaamuAlaikumon November 16, 2004 12:18 PM
sorry, I didnt mean "unpractical", I meant "unrealistic"...it is very VERY VERY practical to aim for someone like our Rasool.on November 16, 2004 12:28 PM
(speaking from the perspective of a person with little-to-no experience in these matters)
can anyone expect a carbon-copy emulation of Rasoolullah (sallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam)? should a brother be expected to find an Aisha?
it is practical to aim for the best, but it's also impractical to expect perfection.on November 16, 2004 2:02 PM
"Find a woman who loves the sunnah and marries the sunnah and then fast-forward 20 years. InshaAllah wa mashaAllah, you will find the brothers you are looking for."
Now THAT is an awesome bit of insight, mashaAllah.
Perfection we grant is unrealistic to expect, so why not seek what is very possible... EXCELLENCE.on November 16, 2004 2:14 PM
Well, the key word in my post is "aim". And yes, you guys should AIM for a Khadijah (RA) or an Aisha (RA) or any of our other great mothers (RA). You want to follow the sunnah? Well part of the sunnah is to marry women of high caliber and honor. Are you going to find someone exactly like them? Probably not. But if you aim for them then you might come closer than if you hadnt aimed for them to begin with.
And we like to think it is soooo difficult to find sunnah-abiding people, but that isnt true. You can find them, you just need to let go of some of the crazy vain superficial requirements that muslims today tend to have. If women and their families stop aiming for wealth, family prestige, looks, etc., and only aim for a pious sunnahfied man who can support his wife, they will find him. But if you say, "ok, he needs to be a doctor, a syed/shareef, a warrior with chiseled features, have a beard up to his perfectly ripped abs, be funny, be an alim and be a qari of masjid-al-harram proportions", then you prolly wont find this guy. And if you do, you are probably dead and in jannah.
These are all wonderful ideas. I know you all have so much more to offer. Keep 'em coming!on November 18, 2004 10:13 PM
Hey people, the title is prepare for battle, not prepare for marriage (although it seems to me that both are equally difficult to prepare for)
I cannot believe this somehow turned into another marriage discussion.
I LOVE THIS UMMAH, AND I LOVE THIS DEEN
AllahuAkbaron November 19, 2004 2:52 PM
I am sorry about turning this discussion into one of marriage (not that there is anything WRONG with that. AllahuAkbar.), but when Br. Z mentioned his quest for those perfectly pious, self-sacrificing sunnahfied brothers, the girl in me couldnt help but scream "Huh! WHERE? Where ARE they?! (and on a calmer note) Whaddya know, we have a common goal, we should network."
Reflex reaction, couldnt help it.
I suppose you guys would react the same way if I mentioned that one unmarried MSA sister who used to be a model and is now a niqaabi who spends her time caring for orphaned children and teaching them memorization of the Quran.on November 19, 2004 5:19 PM
What do you all think about a weekly discussion group for brothers and sisters? A lot of times, brothers and sisters won't something different than a lecture, they jusrt want to discuss issues facing them. Thoughts?on November 21, 2004 7:40 PM
Thats a great idea as long as its completely seperated and as long as the participants know the topic well in advance so that they can do some research and come into it with a certain level of understanding of the issue at hand and the evidence and opinions related to it.
I have been to a few discussions where I couldnt help but think "the blind leading the blind." When people discuss without background knowledge it isnt the truth that becomes manifest and that wins--instead its the person who is the most eloquent and advanced in the tactics of rhetoric who comes out on top.
WasalaamuAlaikumon November 22, 2004 2:10 AM
Here's the setup I had in mind ...
I start off with a short talk (5-10 minutes), then if anyone wants to follow up with questions/comments about the topic, then go off into other issues (nothing really personal, more like a brainstorming session on various things, followed by possible action plans).
Very few rules --
* Maintain proper manners at all times. We're here to work together, not against each other.
* Any religious discussions *must* be based on authentic evidence.
Other than that, I'd like it to be rather informal.
As for separation, do you mean separate discussion groups? Or a separated seating arrangement?on November 22, 2004 11:56 AM
seperate discussion groups.on November 22, 2004 1:13 PM
Can you list some pros and cons to either setup? (Everyone who is interested, all good, constructive input is welcome). I've been debating the setup before formally announcing it through my mass lists.on November 22, 2004 1:57 PM
Some further clarification on the setup ...
Attendees can also come to ask for advice, etc. If they have specific questions, I can take them back to the imams, shuyookh, etc.
As far as timing, it would be once a week, for an hour inshaa' Allah. Again, the idea is to keep things light, wAllahu `alam. This is NOT meant to be a "lecture" or formal halaqah. At the same time, it's not meant to be a hang-out either.on November 22, 2004 2:16 PM
Pros of a separated setup:
-a significant segment of the male and female population would simply be more comfortable and likely to speak up in a segregated environment.
-You'll avoid the usual whispering/talking/private conversations that arise within the brothers and/or sisters because of people not wanting others to hear what they're saying.
It'll be interesting to read the Cons :)on November 22, 2004 2:49 PM
Also, if there's a specific issue that people would like discussed that week, they can send me the topic/question so I can do some research (FAQ style). In fact, that will be highly encouraged. That way, the attendees have a say in what is discussed, as opposed to a halaqah with a specific curriculum.on November 22, 2004 2:53 PM
This is an excellent idea mashallah. Its long overdue. Let's put it into reality asap. If you need any help, just contact me.
Walikomaslaam.on November 22, 2004 3:23 PM
This goes for anyone (including Talal) who posts pros or cons for the setup --
You *must* post both pros AND cons. This will force you to think from all angles. So, since Mr. Sarwani was the first to post pros, I'll be waiting for his cons as well, inshaa' Allah :)on November 22, 2004 3:28 PM
Cons of separated setup:
- If the numbers aren't quite there as far as attendance, then it's possibly alot of wasted effort to have two separate gatherings.
- Ummm.. yeah... I need to get creative:
- We can't go forth with the SHEESHA idea!!!!
Seriously though, from what I've seen with this exact idea in the past, success comes in the ability for all to be as free as possible, in the vein of "La hayaa' fil deen". This just isn't gonna happen with both brothers and sisters there.
I'd say it depends a bit on your aim with the idea. Is it to answer people's questions, or is it to harness brainpower to take over the world.
If it's the latter, then there may be more pros to having both brothers and sisters present. For Q&A though, separate is better.
As for the aim, I'm not looking to get into the fatwa business ;) I would have to say there are elements of --
* answering people's questions
* creating a forum for Muslims to constructicely discuss issues and interact with each other
* give another option for Muslim gatherings (besides lecture, halaqah, and just hanging out)
* brainstorm ideas and develop plans to act on those ideas
I think it would be better for brothers and sisters to be separated but in one room (con el filtro de fitna) for the talk given by the speaker of the evening (a different speaker is appointed for each meeting to encourage individual research, participation, and the development of public speaking skills).
Then, after the talk, they should split up and hold the discussion in separate rooms.
The advantage to having it unseparated and in the same room:
If there is no divider-- Attendance will go up because all those weasels (who wouldnt attend a halaqa unless there were girls to ogle) will come, kufi and all.
If there is a divider-- Attendence will go up because people who have a crush on someone who attends the halaqa will have the torturous pleasure of waiting for that special someone to speak, and then inwardly rejoicing when they hear the sweet sound of their obsession's voice coming from the other side of the divider.
Here are pros I was given by another individual about having a joint discussion group (separate seating of course) --
* each side would hear the questions of the other side. An example where this has shown to be beneficial is the 2 CD set from Ustaadh Muhammad and EmanRush (How to be an Outstanding Husband/How to be an Outstanding Wife). Hearing both sides helped for better understanding.
* good chance split groups would lose focus, turn into hang outs.
This is not a "divider discussion". Please stay focused. Jazaakum Allahu khayr :)on November 22, 2004 11:11 PM
Why not just have it online. This way both genders can participate. My brother took an arabic class offered online by Almaghrib Institute thru paltalk. We can probably do something like that. The amir will lead the topic this way we don't have everyone disscussing different topics.
Jazaakum Allahu khayron November 23, 2004 8:38 AM
Skillfully done ya ameer-ul-durbaeen.
Pros of having a separate discussion group.
*Problems and questions not very appropriate being discussed in the presence of the opposite gender can be discussed.
*People can be a bit more relaxed and the "accidental" neck turns and "bling bling" can be kept to a minimum.
*It will definitely turn into a hangout and people will lose focus.
*Input from the other side will be lost.
How to compensate for these cons?
We have a joint discussion with an Ameer leading the discussion to begin while everyone is present (front and back setup) and then the groups split.
*All the pros already discussed plus, (and please don't take what I am about to say in jest) those of us who are completely out of touch with the other half of this ummah will be a bit more enlightened. One of the reasons Abu Yousaf Riyadh ul Haq discusses Muslims are in such a mess is because one half of the ummah has been rendered completely impotent due the misogynistic nature of the other half. Inshallah, the brothers can have a chance to know the thought patterns and the inner workings of the sisters and vice versa. This will help us work together and inshallah help each other become better Muslimin. One possible benefit I see outright is that the brothers can help to organize some sister activities which the sister couldn’t do before such as sports. While recently, some brothers came under intense fire from the sisters because the sisters thought they were being called fat. That was not at all the intention and inshallah, these sorts of ridiculous misunderstandings can be avoided and the sisters can call us out if they feel we are being unfair and it can work both ways.
Would the cons be served if the weekly group I run be the one when both brothers and sisters attend, and then separate groups (whether the same day or different day) can have follow-up discussions amongst themselves?on November 23, 2004 11:01 AM
I was reading the discussion on this topic and did not finish all of it, just wanted to ask? what is the purpose of the discussion group. I guess if everyone does what they have to and then we are all set, meaning read Qur'aan and Salaah and stuff and that is it and do your job and leave this country to go to a Muslim country or if you are here be involved in da'wah and not be afraid to speak the truth and make du'as for your brothers and sisters in islaam and the true mujaahideens everywhere. I watched "The Message" today and although I dont think it is an excellent movie perse but it made me realize how the early generations of Muslims did so much for our ummah and sacrificed so much. How they became shaheed and many of us are afraid to speak up the truth and stuff.
When you have the time, please read the conversation on this thread about the discussion group. If it is still unclear, then I can answer your questions inshaa' Allah. Jazaak Allahu khayr for your input :)on November 24, 2004 1:05 PM
Asalaam Aleikum Warahmatullah Wabaraktu,
So when do these discussion sessions start?
Wasalaam Warahmatullah Wabarakatuon November 26, 2004 1:22 AM
WHAT: The "Un-Halaqah" ~ Muslim Discussion Group
WHEN: Wednesdays, 11:00AM-12:00PM (starting 12/1/04)
WHERE: Rutgers Student Center, 4th Floor
HOW: Together, bi idhnillah :)
And most importantly, WHY?
* creating a forum for Muslims to constructively discuss issues and interact with each other
* give another option for Muslim gatherings (besides lectures, halaqaat, and just hanging out)
* brainstorm ideas and develop plans to act on those ideas to improve ourselves, and the Ummah inshaa' Allah
* Maintain proper manners at all times. We're here to work together, not against each other.
If you have any questions about The "Un-Halaqah", or have topics you would like to discuss, e-mail me by Tuesday, at 6pm, inshaa' Allah. Jazaakum Allahu khayr. See you all on Wednesday inshaa' Allah! Meet up on the 4th floor at RSC (we will hold The "Un-Halaqah" in one of the available meeting rooms inshaa' Allah).
on November 26, 2004 3:33 AM
*DISCLAIMER* -- This is NOT a fatwa session. If you would like one, speak to me on Wednesday, and we can work to arrange one inshaa' Allah.
See you all tomorrow at The UN-Halaqah inshaa' Allah! Details above :)
Mostafaon November 30, 2004 2:44 PM
Mashaa' Allah, Wednesday's first meeting of The "Un-Halaqah" exceeded my expectations alhamdu lillah. Please note, The "Un-Halaqah" has moved to Mondays (11am-12pm) from now on (starting this Monday, 12/6) inshaa' Allah. See you all there inshaa' Allah :)on December 4, 2004 6:58 PM
As we prepare for the upcoming AlMaghrib class in NJ (The Purification Act - visit http://www.almaghrib.org/tpa.php for more info), I also wanted to get a gauge on the time for the Un-Halaqah for the Spring 2005 semester. Again, targetting one hour during the day once a week inshaa' Allah. Please post your suggested times here. If you have more than one, then please rank them in order (1-first preference, etc.). Jazaakum Allahu khayr.on January 5, 2005 7:21 PM