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March 15, 2004
Mile 1 : Confident Hayaa

by Saima Siddiqui

A year after the two girls had originally met, their friendship had grown beyond what they had expected. They talked about everything and anything; they had a perspective common to all, but uncommon to most.

Kunza: You wanna meet me at the car? I hafta go to the ATM to get some money.

Shajeeah: Ok, I have to go to the bathroom anyway, Insha'Allah I'll meet you at the car.

(Kunza and Shajeeah at the car)

Kunza: It's open hon. Shajeeah: Oh, I always forget. (Kunza starts the car)

Kunza: Are you hungry? You wanna stop by to get something to eat ?

Shajeeah: Naah, I'm okay.

Kunza: You sure?

Shajeeah: Yeah, unless you wanna...

Kunza: Naah, I'm okay. I just had DP before the meeting.

Shajeeah: What's the matter, there's a sort of freshness and at the same time tiredness on your face today...

Kunza: Nothing, I just have a lot of stuff on my mind...

Shajeeah: Anything I can help with ? You wanna talk about it ?

Kunza: Naah, it's ok.

Shajeeah: You sure?

Kunza: Well, I'm graduating next year, and my mom has approached me with a proposal she got...

Shajeeah: OOOOOOhhh... anyone I know ? (smiles)

Kunza: Naah, I dunno him either...

Shajeeah: Did she gave you any info about him ? Like what he does, where he studied ?

Kunza: Yeah.. the usual. He's a lawyer. He graduated from Yale...

Shajeeah: Hmm, a lawyer eh ?

Kunza: I shouldn't say this.. but gimme a break.

Shajeeah: (laughs) Why?

Kunza: C'mon, how much you wanna bet that his character is like nil.

Shajeeah: I'm sure he can't be that bad...

Kunza: But he could be..

Shajeeah: So why don't you find out more about him ? Don't you know anyone that knows him ?

Kunza: Yeah, well, I'm actually making salaat-ul-istiqhaara these days... I mean like, who knows him better than Allah.

Shajeeah: True, very true.

Kunza: And who knows me better than Allah.

Shajeeah: Absolutely.

Kunza: I mean like, a person's character is an important part in a guy to my parents, but unfortunately, because of this "culture" factor, so is his "professional status".. forget economical or social status.. its the professional status that counts more these days. Parents mostly want doctors or engineers... and lately, the computer science field has also opened up for them ...

Shajeeah: Not all parents honey...

Kunza: Yeah, not all parents... but most do. And I'm sick of it. I need someone to help stimulate me spiritually... Allah gives you wealth and work and He can take it away anytime He wills...

Shajeeah: Yeah. true dat.

Kunza: I need someone who is like how I want my children to be. Someone who knows the essence of responsibility to the spouse, family and community...

Shajeeah: Good luck hon.

(They both laugh)

Kunza: No, really, how many guys do know of that really really follow the Sunnah of the Prophet sallalahu alayhi wasalaam. Like try to follow his character, his ways of fairness, his courage, AND the way he dealt with women...

Shajeeah: I don't know...Not many. Especially in our community back home...

(Kunza sighs)

Kunza: I know that Allah will give me the best whatever it may be... the best for me... because I myself am weak in many things... but I want someone to be better than me in spirituality.. to be at a level different from me so that he can help uplift me...

Shajeeah: Yeah, like I've determined that guys fall into 3 major categories. There are those on one extreme that are totally free with gals and like don't see anything wrong in it. Then there are those on the opposite extreme where there afraid of even saying salaam to their muslim sister. THEN, there are those who have "confident hayaa". They will pass by a sister and without even looking up at her, they'll say salaam. And you won't even know who went passed you and said salaam to you. And frankly, you wouldn't even care because what counts is the salaam and how it makes you feel all peaceful and warm and fuzzy. And they'll be courteous, and be professional, and be polite. Respecting their limits and respecting my rights...

(Kunza drives up to the toll)

Toll Lady: Thank You.

Kunza: (to toll lady) You're welcome.

Kunza: (to Shajeeah): A rare breed honey, a rare breed.

Shajeeah: But they exist! (smiles)

Kunza: Yeah sure. You find someone like that for me and I'll send my proposal to him.

Shajeeah: Is that a deal ?

Kunza: You have my word. (pulls up into the driveway) I love the turnpike.. you never get any traffic at this time.

Shajeeah: Yeah. I saw your speed honey.

Kunza: (smiles) Whaaat ?

Shajeeah: (laughs) Nothing. Anyway, next week, Ill find out more info and I'll let you know.

Kunza: You mean that breed is actually in this STATE ?

Shajeeah: (laughs) Yeah. What did you think ? You had to import it from Canada or something ?

Kunza: (laughs) Yeah. Or Syria.

(they both laugh)

Kunza: Ok, Ill see you next week hon.

Shajeeah: Thanks for the ride home. As-salaamu alaikum,

Kunza: Wa'alaikum as-salaam, no problem hon.

of and relating to...
Mostafa Khalifa said

Asalaamu `alaikum,

This looks like it's going to be an interesting series, Sr. Saima. :)

Looks like people are really going to enjoy the upcoming program at Rutgers entitled, "MARRIAGE: What's Love Got To Do With It?" with Ustaadh Muhammad Alshareef. This will be on the evening of March 23rd at the Livingston Student Center at 6:30pm inshaa' Allah. More details will be sent to my e-mail list when they are confirmed inshaa' Allah. If you're not on my e-mail list (which is different from the ISRU list), send me a quick e-mail saying you'd like to be added inshaa' Allah.

Asalaamu `alaikum,

Mostafa Khalifa

on March 15, 2004 1:42 PM
Gillette said

Assalamu 'Alaikum,

I'm going to assume, like, sisters, like, actually, like, talk like this, like, because, like, I don't know how they, like, talk.

I'm looking forward to the rest.


on March 16, 2004 7:22 AM
Nadia said

lol@Br.Gillette. So true though. Most gals talk in terms of "like" and "you know".

on March 16, 2004 9:00 AM
Rami said

Asalaam Aleikum Warahmatullah Wabarakatu,

Good job sister, awake next week's continuation insha Allah.

on March 16, 2004 11:05 AM
Saima said


on March 16, 2004 3:36 PM
Talal said

Seriously, this like "Honey, this, honey, that" was like whoa too.

But really, Sr. Saima, this format idea is genius, mashaAllah.

on March 16, 2004 4:36 PM
Amr bin Muhammed Gharib said


thank you very much sister Saima for the heads up. Looking forward to more of em...

PS: nice way to slip in the advertisement Khalifah; youve gotta tech me how to do that ;) :D.

on March 17, 2004 10:05 AM
Justoju said

Deep thought: If one feels fuzzy inside, its probably because one isnt taking care of ones hygiene.

on March 17, 2004 11:35 PM
Faisal Akhtar said

hahahaha@BintAbbs comment. All of your comments mashallah are very funny. Lol (I'll read it tomorrow from Nadia's article) Hehehehe

Faisal Akhtar

on March 18, 2004 12:03 AM
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