Mother is the most talked about and written about personality; yet it does not save her from being taken for granted. Every child, be he two years old or twenty-two, exploits his mother in one way or another. Some insist on touching that hot iron their mum strictly forbade them from, and some want to risk their lives skydiving despite their mother’s repeated warnings. However, those from whom Allah (swt) takes this most beautiful blessing away know exactly what they are missing. After Allah (swt)’s love for His servants, a mother’s love for her children is unprecedented. Come what may, there is no decrease in her boundless affections and in her limitless benevolence. It is no surprise that even thieves and criminals know deep down in their hearts that there is someone in this world who loves them unconditionally despite their ignoble actions.
Just as we should contemplate about our death often, we should also treat others, especially our family as if we are seeing them for the last time. This means that we should empty our hearts of all the grudges we may have for anyone we were at odds during the day. It also means that we never speak aloud before our mothers, even if sometimes they are unreasonable. Even if we make a mistake and disrespect them consciously or unconsciously, we should not go to sleep until we have apologized for our actions. Maybe, this way we might come close to pay for that night when our mother stayed up for us all night while we were sick with the chickenpox.
As we grow up and run towards youth, our parents age and walk towards that realm which brands them as “old”. As they become more sensitive over time, we should make sure we become more tolerant and humble over time. This society is specifically very hard on our parents, especially mothers. They have to work, one way or another, to support us and to contribute towards family expenses. They cannot afford to suffer any other pain and we cannot afford to disrespect them or defy them. We should always greet them with a smile even if they have a grin on their face. We should always help them out, even if they do not ask for our help. This way, not only we will be making our mothers pleased with us, but our Creator pleased as well. May Allah (swt) bless all of us with mothers and give us guidance to strive towards pleasing them just as we strive to please Allah (swt). Ameen
Excellent topic sisters and well written.
I hope there is a Mothers part 2, Mothers part 3 and then something about fathers. :)on July 1, 2004 11:04 PM
good article. as faisal alluded to we should give respect to our mothers 3 times and then to our fathers ...
in umrah and hajj we are reminded of the sacrifice, love, and concern prophet ismael's mother hajar had for her baby son as she ran 7 times between the mountains of safa and marwa searching for water... it is our mothers who the prophet (SAW) said we shouldn't even say "uff" to... and yet the trend of defying and being rude to one's mother persists today - even among the outwardly religious kids....
the prophet (SAW) said that jannah is under the feet of one's mother - we should imbibe this reality in our persons... to do otherwise indicates a deficiency in our belief..on July 1, 2004 11:39 PM
Jazakallah Khair, this was excellent.
May Allah (swt) give us the hidaya to appreciate what parents do for us.
Very well chosen topic, in today's time and age.
And very well written indeed.
Also, just wanted to add that to have parents reach the 'old age' when they need us like we needed them in our infancy, is truly an opportunity to secure your place in Heaven. And to not avail from that opportunity (by taking care of them like they did for us) is a grave misfortune.
As Salaamu Alaikum
May ALLAH reward you abundantly for that reminder sis.Touched my heart.
Was Salaamon July 2, 2004 5:06 PM
nice to post again on hidaya and to read everyone's articles...nadia this was beautiful, moreso when i'm missing my mother alot right now...mothers are special people, words can't describe them but you did a beautiful job...don't forget about fathers too, fathers who lose sleep, rest and relaxation in order to put food into our bellies and buy whatever we ask them to...and people whom you don't even realize how much you live, until they are taken from you..
please guys, for all of you who still have both parents alive, treat them as your greatest and most prized possession because they are...nothing in this world is more reassuring then to know that you have parents who love you for who you are no matter who you are...
spending time with family is a lost "art" these days, make sure you guys do it as much as possible
please keep me and my family, especially my mother, in your prayers
arifon July 2, 2004 6:53 PM
Assalam u alaikum Br.Arif,
Jazakallah khair for your comments; I am Alhamdulillah very happy that it was of any use. Inshallah, all of us at Hidaya will remember your family and your mother in our prayers.
I read a great news story.
There was a recent survery done and "Mother" was found to be the most beautiful word in the English language.
"Father" didn't make the list of top 70 words. Lolipop fared better than father.
Check it out here.
I love that word.