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September 23, 2004
Life is fragile; handle with prayer

by Nadia Khan

The above-mentioned statement is by far my second most favorite bumper sticker which I saw on one of my beloved friend's car succeeded by my most favorite one, which says, "If you are living as if there is no God, you better be right!". I will Inshallah write some other time about the later statement but let's step back to the art of beseeching Allah (swt) and finish the discussion about "dua".

Best times to beg:

1. After Fardh namaz (obligatory prayer):
Abu Umamah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) was asked: "At what time does the supplication find the greatest response?'' He (PBUH) replied, "A supplication made during the middle of the last part of the night and after the conclusion of the obligatory prayers.''
[At-Tirmidhi].
Sometimes people wait until they are done with all of their namaz and then pray. While there is nothing wrong with it but according to the ahadeeth it is apparent that the best time to pray is to do so right after the fardh namaz and then one can pray after getting done with all of the namaz as well.

2. While in Prostration:
Holy Prophet (PBUH) stated:
A slave becomes nearest to Rubb when he is in prostration so increase your supplications in prostrations. (Muslim)After the fardh namaz, it is best to go into prostration and then beg Allah (swt) with all the humbleness. Prostration is the physical manifestation of the best humbleness and if it is accompanied with the humbleness of heart, Inshallah our dua will head straight towards the skies.

3. During Tahajjud prayer:
Everyone must know the importance and the bliss of performing tahajjud prayer. This is the time when Allah (swt) comes to the lowest skies and looks for his slaves who are praying in His presence. I have personally heard from many people who Mashallah are fortunate enough to perform Tahajjud that they sometimes get scared because whatever they pray for during the night comes right before their eyes in the true form, the next morning. May Allah (swt) give all of us the ability to benefit from the bliss of Tahajjud prayer. Ameen.

Some of the recommended prayers:

Holy Prophet used to pray especially for three things, "for his health, safety and good character".
Holy prophet (PBUH) used to pray fervently and frequently for every little thing; from his shoe lace to his biggest dua for the redemption of his ummah which he has saved for the Hereafter. It is recommended that we memorize all of his duas and recite them both with tongues and hearts. However, the safest dua we can ask from Allah (swt) if we do not have the individual duas memorized is:
" O Allah (swt)! I pray for all those good things that Holy Prophet (PBUH) asked Your favor of and I beg refuge from all things that Holy Prophet (PBUH) sought refuge him."

Some helpful tips:
- Since we know that Allah (swt) listens to dua especially after the Fardh namaz, it will be best if we start making dua from Allah (swt) and importuning Him after every Fardh namaz. If we start doing so now and continue it throughout the Ramadan, it will become a habit of ours since practicing something continuously for even 30 days makes it a habit and we are talking about at least 45 days here.

- We should also try to memorize Holy Prophet's duas one by one and integrate it in our namaz right after darood and before saying salam. Many of the times we keep waiting for the imam to say salam because we are done before him. By memorizing the masnoon duas, we can lengthen our namaz and earn more thwab.

- Holy Prophet (PBUH) states: "Nothing prevents predestination except Dua and nothing stretches the age except righteousness." (Ibn al-Tirmidhi) Most of the times we do not pray because we think that Allah (swt) has already written our destiny and there is no point asking from Him when He has already decreed our lives. However, this hadith shows that if anything can intercede with our predestination, it is our dua. One of our major dreams in life is to get a great husband or wife who is perfect in every respect. Though most people contend that we are paired in heavens and it might be true, but still we should always ask from Allah (swt) to give us the best spouse who has a great character, piety, shame, beauty or whatever one desires. I have seen it personally that those who have great husbands or wives have prayed hard in the court of Allah (swt).

- Making dua is always a win-win situation. If it gets accepted, then Subhanallah, we get whatever we ask for. But even if it does not get accepted, we still get the bliss and the dua gets stored for us to be weighed in our balance in the Hereafter. It is one of those extra extra extra credit points which do not have a lifeline and which always add up to our final grade even if we are in need of them or not.

Finally, I will reiterate that we should always believe in the effectiveness of our Dua. Allah (swt) states in Quran:

"Doth not man see that it is We Who created him from sperm? yet behold! he (stands forth) as an open adversary! And he makes comparisons for Us, and forgets his own (origin and) Creation: He says, "Who can give life to (dry) bones and decomposed ones (at that)?" Say, "He will give them life Who created them for the first time! for He is Well-versed in every kind of creation!- "The same Who produces for you fire out of the green tree, when behold! ye kindle therewith (your own fires)! Is not He Who created the heavens and the earth able to create the like thereof?" - Yea, indeed! for He is the Creator Supreme, of skill and knowledge (infinite)! Verily, when He intends a thing, His Command is, "be", and it is! So glory to Him in Whose hands is the dominion of all things: and to Him will ye be all brought back. (36:77-83)"
When Allah (swt) can do such magnanimous and miraculous things such as breathing life in us and in the universe and then taking the breath away and then resuscitating us, then how can he not accept our duas? If He does not, then there must verily be even more signs and signals for us to ponder. May Allah (swt) give us the ability to only ask from Allah (swt), to believe in the effectiveness of our duas and to own the decisions made by Allah (swt ) made after our duas. Ameen.


of and relating to...
Rami said

Asalaam Aleikum Warahmatullah Wabaraktu,

Jazzakum Allah kul khair sister for the uplifting article. I don;t know why it was uplifting...but it was. alhamdullilah.

Wasalaam Warahmatullah Wabaraktu

on September 23, 2004 10:52 PM
Faisal Akhtar said

Assalam-o-alaikom.

Beautiful article and a much needed sidestep from all the madness going on elsewhere. May Allah bless you sister.

Wasalam

on September 24, 2004 4:11 AM
Talal said

Ma sha Allah... AWESOME title ukhti.

Du'a IS the key to change..

on September 24, 2004 4:46 AM
gillette said

it might also be added that a du'a might not recieve a response because allah (swt) knows that what you are asking for is not good for you.

on September 24, 2004 4:31 PM
Tanweer said

Bismillah,
As-salamu 'Alaikum,

Speaking of duaa', Ramadan is coming. It'll be nice if we prepare a list of our financial, spiritual, "marriage" goals etc and make duaa' every night in ramadan.

Here is a nice article by Ustadh AlShareef:

http://khutbah.com/khutbah/returntoallah/before.html

wassalam
Tanweer

on September 26, 2004 10:30 PM
Justoju said

im 23yrs old and would like to get married but i dont seem to find the right person, i would like some duas on receiving a good marriage proposal..


Answer 12360 2004-08-06


You may recite ‘Rabb anzaliniy munzalan mubaarakan wa anta khayrul munzileen’ as often as possible.

Also turn your attention towards Allah in performing Salaat, Du’aa, etc. The time for Tahajjud is the ideal time to turn to Allah and beg Him to fulfil your needs and wishes. May Allah Ta’ala grant you a suitable partner that will assist you in deen and grant you comfort and ease, Aameen.

and Allah Ta'ala Knows Best

Mufti Ebrahim Desai

on September 28, 2004 2:31 AM
Justoju said

btw, for anyone who wants to know, the above question and answer are from www.askimam.com.

reading fatwas is tremendously fun.

Especially ones like...

Question:
I smoke cannabis every day and am getting married soon: Will my nikah count?

Answer:
Walaikum assalam wa rahmatullah,

Smoking cannabis is haram, and one must stop it or at least take the proven means to be able to stop it, because the means to being able to avoid the prohibited are obligatory to take.

However, this does not in any way relate to the validity of one’s marriage.

And Allah alone gives success.

Wassalam,
Faraz Rabbani

on September 28, 2004 2:43 AM
natasha said

aslamwaalaikum i realy like this boy and he likes me i am 17 years old and i would feel guilty if i did not tel my mum so i told ehr i like him however i cry in naamaz and beg allah to give me him because i want to get married to him but he said his mum wil say because his older brother asked if he can marry a girl that is his own choice and he said no.He has been throgh alot of problems in life his dad got married twice and is in pakistan for four years i do not want him geting away form his family and i wouldnt do anything to hurt my family and neither would he i wished his mum would be more understanding we are stil talking but he is kind of htched to someone in pakistan what shal i do? is there a dua in whch his mums mind can change i am very confused wasalam

on May 8, 2005 9:21 AM
Asif said

Salaam:

Sister Natasha...I can give you loads of advice...but I would rather defer you to sister Justoju...she is an editor on Hidayaonline and her email address is writing4hidaya@yahoo.com

Please write to her directly.I am sure she can give some insights and a good advice to you on this matter.

By the way, (as a general rule) expect nothing from any creature, but everything from the Creator/Sustainer...and you shall always find what is pleasing to your heart with contentment...Insha'Allah.

on May 8, 2005 2:49 PM
Imaan said

Salaam

I have a sister who wants to get married to my cousin from Pakistan. he also wants to marry her but she is scared to tell my parents.They will not agree. I was wondering if there is any dua they can both read. I heard about one dua which both the girl and boy should read 70 times and then talk to their family. i have forgotten the dua, i think it begins with subhanaka. please could you help and also find out about this dua.

Thanks

Imaan

on June 7, 2005 6:34 AM
SHARIQ HAMID said

CAN DUA CHANGE DESTINY ?

PLEASE REPLY IN YES OR NO , WITH REFERENCE TO RELEVANT QURANIC AYAHS.

THANKS

SHARIQ

on July 1, 2005 5:17 AM
gillette said

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Nothing can change the Divine decree except du’aa’. (Narrated by Ahmad, 5/677; Ibn Maajah, 90; al-Tirmidhi, 139.

http://63.175.194.25/index.php?QR=11694

on July 1, 2005 12:37 PM
ZARTASHA said

aslam alaikam
i want to get married to a guy ive liked since i was 15 and im really serious about him please give me some duas that will help me to get married to him thank you im 21 now ive liked him for really long
bah bye

on October 3, 2005 9:32 PM
ss said

zartasha,

Not to discourage you, may Allah help you. But this isn't the right place to ask this question. You might want to consult a scholar on what you should do, ask 'em for duas, the right course of actions, etc.

take care

on October 3, 2005 9:46 PM
Daa'iya said

Salamualaikum wa rahmatullah
Some good pointers there mashaAllah
Sister do you mind me using a few quotes of your article on my blog inshaAllah?
JazakAllahkhair,
Daa'iya

on October 24, 2005 12:01 PM
SID said

just want to add to the topic of duah:

Aisha radhiallaahu anha said, "No believer makes Dua and
it is wasted. Either it is granted here in this world
or deposited for him in the Hereafter as long as he does not get
frustrated."

In the end there can be reasons why the Dua might not be
answered such as Divine Wisdom, trying to hurry the
response of one's Dua, Dua for what is sinful or the breaking
off of relations, eating, drinking, or dressing from what is
Haram, not being resolute in making Dua, abandoning the duty of
enjoining what is good and shunning the evil, the dominance of
unmindfulness, lust and vain desires, not being submissive
during Salah, or committing particular sins (not divorcing a
bad woman, giving a loan without a witness, and a man who gave
his wealth to the foolish)



Allah the Exalted, has said: "And your
Lord says: Pray unto me: and I will hear your praye "Call upon your Lord Humbly and in secret"When My servants question thee concerning Me, I am indeed close
(to them): I listen to the prayer of every suppliant when he
calls on Me" "Is not He (best) who listens to
the (soul) distressed when it calls on Him, and who relieves its
suffering."

We can and should make Dua in every condition, i.e. in
hardship and in prosperity. There are also some special
times to make Dua where it is more likely to be accepted:

1. When one is oppressed
2. Between the time of Athan and Iqama
3. At the time of the call for prayer
4. At the time of fighting when warriors are engaged with
each other
5. When it is raining
6. When one is sick
7. The last third of the night
8. Ramadan (especially Lailatul Qadr)
9. After the Fard part of prayer
10. When traveling
11. When breaking fast
12. In Sujood
13. Fridays, some say on Friday after Asr prayer
14. While drinking the water from the well of Zamzam
15. At the start of prayer (Dua of Istiftah)
16. When one begins the prayer, i.e. with "all praise be to
Allah, the Pure and the Blessed one"
17. While one recites al-Fatiha (which is a Dua)
18. When Ameen is said in the prayer (also relating to Fatiha)
19. At the time of raising the head after the Rukoo
20. In the last part of the prayer after conveying blessings
unto the Prophet (SAW)
21. Before finishing the prayer (before Tasleem (saying the
Salaam to the angels))
22. At the end of Wudu
23. On the day of Arafah
24. On waking up from sleep
25. At times of adversity
26. Prayer after the death of a person
27. Dua when someone's heart is filled with sincerity and
when it is focused on Allah
28. Dua of the parent against or for his children
29. When the sun moves from its meridian but before the
Dhuhr prayer
30. The Dua of a Muslim for his brother without the latter's
knowledge
31. At the time the army advances to fight in the way
of Allah.

Dua can be beautified and perfected by certain actions:

1. Have Wudu, face Qibla, be neat and clean
2. Raise both hands up to the shoulder with palms open facing up
3. Use words of Allah and Muhammad (SAW)-
i.e. Duas found in Quran and Hadith
4. Ask by Asma alHusna- Allah's Beautiful Names
5. Ask Allah by your good deeds
6. Be insistent-repeat (i.e. 3x's)
7. Glorify Allah and recite Durud for the Prophet (SAW) at
both the beginning and end
8. Show humility, entreaty, desire and fear while making Dua
9. Repent and try to make amends where one has wronged
10. Confess mistakes, shortcomings, and sins
11. Keep voice between a whisper and speaking aloud
12. Show the need for Allah's help and implore Him for release
from weakness, hardship and tribulation.
13. Seize the opportunity of time, situation and circumstance in
which prayers are answered
14. Avoid rhymed prose to keep concentration
15. Crying when making Dua
16. The Dua of Dhun-Nun (Yunus) by which he invoked Allah from
within the belly of the whale was: "LAa ilaha illa
Anta, Subhanaka innee kuntu min aDH-DHaalimeen."
No Muslim ever makes Dua with it but Allah
answers it." [at tirmidhi in his sunan, ahmad
and hakim reported it and hakim declared it
authentic and adh dhahabee agreed]
17. End with "Alhamdulillah rabbil alameen"


We should ask for Dunya things, but not just for the
sake of Dunya itself and for Akhirah things. We should
not ask for punishment to be brought forward in this world or
for early death. We should not curse any particular human being
or animal, abuse a Muslim for no reason, abuse dead people
without cause and religious excuse, or abuse fever or the wind.
We should not make Dua by saying we have been given rain by this
or that star or what Allah willed, and so and so willed. We
should not make Dua against family and property or for sinful
acts and severing the bonds.

In the end there can be reasons why the Dua might not be
answered such as not fulfilling conditions like some of
the ones listed above or: Divine Wisdom, trying to hurry the
response of one's Dua, Dua for what is sinful or the breaking
off of relations, eating, drinking, or dressing from what is
Haram, not being resolute in making Dua, abandoning the duty of
enjoining what is good and shunning the evil, the dominance of
unmindfulness, lust and vain desires, not being submissive
during Salah, or committing particular sins (not divorcing a
vile woman, giving a loan without a witness, and a man who gave
his wealth to the foolish)

More information on Dua can be found in a book in
English, a translation of Kitaab ud-Du`aa' by Shaykh
al-`Awaa'ishah (published by Jam`iat Ihyaa Minhaaj al-Sunnah),
the Book of Supplications in Al-Bukhari and Riyadh us Saleheen
and Ajawab Alkafi by Imam Shams Adeen Mohamad bin AbiBakr Bin
Qayem Ajawyzeyah. Jazakamullahu khairan to those who corrected
and added to the above compilation. May Allah make us of those
that oft turn to Him in Dua. Ameen.

on November 19, 2005 3:41 AM
Ali Shakil Khan said

As Salam Alaikum!

This is a very motivating piece of information. May Allah the AlMighty bless you for taking the effort to do something like this for the Mumineen.

Jazak Allahu Khair!

Ali.

on May 30, 2006 6:39 PM
Salim said

As Salam Alaikum

Very informative and very beneficial insha-Allah May we all follow the Sunnah of our Prophet peace be upon him and make ourselves better muslims.

on October 8, 2006 7:20 AM
shazeen akhtar said

salam i am vey humble by the response that people have received through the hadiths of allah. i just wish sometimes i was stronger in faith and more patient in waiting for my prayers to come true. i feel by reading other peoples promblem and your responses i feel at peace with myself that there is an answer to pur prayers as long as we beieve

on March 29, 2007 9:58 AM
Noor said

Mashaalah! A very useful and interesting article.

May Allah (SWT) provide you blessing, guidance and more useful knowledge, ameen.

May HE the Almighty be please with you and your wonderful job, ameen.

Noor

on May 29, 2007 3:10 PM
Sana said

Salam Alaikum,

mashallah, very well written. I have a personal issue that I would like to talk to you about via email.. please let me know if it is possible if I could talk to you about something.

Jazak Allah.

on July 22, 2007 3:36 PM
Nadia said

Wailaikum salaam sana.
I am not sure if you wanted to talk to me but if you do, my email address is nadeensmile@yahoo.com
Thanks,
-Nadia

on July 25, 2007 10:00 AM
bushra ul hussaini said

mashallah,
its really very good and helpfull article.i find it very helpfull n usefull.

on April 20, 2008 5:38 AM
Imtiaz Khan said

i don't know the meaning of of URL.

i want to learn dua after all fard namaz. can you please give me few dua in short so that it is easier to remember. i go to mosque late just for the fear that i would be asked to lead the prayer; it is so embarassing. can you please give me the dua, both in english and Arabic (as Arabic in Quraan).

on December 17, 2008 12:03 AM
femida said

i want to give my life to god. i am just tired give me duas that my i can just serve god

on December 26, 2008 5:50 AM
Waiz Wasey said

Mashallah, nice article, May Allah reward u for ur efforts.

on May 21, 2009 9:58 AM
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