She’s a beauty queen of seventeen
One of the prettiests girl you’ve ever seen
She’s got a great body and the clothes that she wears
Are trendy and showy to make all the guys stare
She’s got hair and skin that’s soft to the touch
And parents who love and spoil her much
She’s talented and gets good grades in school
Where she’s very popular and, like, totally cool
She goes to the mall and hangs with her friends
They promise to be there for her till the end
She goes shopping with them for her favorite things
CDs and magazines and fashion rings
She picks up Britney, Christina and the new J.Lo
They are her idols, she admires them so
She picks up the new issues of Seventeen and Cosmo
To see what her favorite stars are up to
She looks through it and sees the beautiful girls
And wonders why she was cursed with curls
She looks at them and says: “Why can’t I be that thin?”
And vows to eat no sweets, no junk, no anything again
She sees a nice outfit and wants to go buy it
But the size 2 doesn’t fit; she must go on a diet!
She then goes to the pharmacy, for makeup, she lies
But it’s really her refill for Zoloft she buys
It keeps her from thinking of killing herself
She is severely depressed; her life is a mess
From outside she looks perfect, but unfortunately
All she sees is a person who’s fat and ugly
She compares herself to the others she sees
The actresses and singers that come on TV
To her they are perfection defined
This is what the media has drilled into her mind
She’ll forever try to emulate the stars
Admiring their looks, their money and cars
She will never be satisfied, no matter what
Because she’ll always look to what she has not
Our Lord we must thank, for the good and the bad
And never look to what we wish we had
Just some notes:
This poem was inspired by real events.
As pharmacy student on rotations, I can't tell you how many times I've seen people who I would think are very "together" picking up antidepressants and I wonder...wow! They look like they lead the "perfect" life and yet here they are picking up medication to feel whole, intact.
Also, I wrote it last week before reading other poems and articles on this topic but Subhan'Allah, it fits the recurring theme. :)on December 28, 2004 10:26 AM
Salaam Amani San:
I have a query about your comment, does the anti-depressants really work?
I am one of those who hardly take any medication, Alhamdulillah, but am curious to know if these things really help, if they do then is the relief temporary or lasting.
Part of the reason I am curious is because does these antidepressants have a similar effect (to a lesser exent) as illlegal drugs that makes you feel happy and oblivious to your problems and surroundings.
This is very interesting indeed. Would like to hear your professional comment on this, Insha'Allah.
masalaamaon December 28, 2004 10:39 AM
Asalaam Aleikum Warahmatullah Wabarkatu,
Br. Asif, there is a very VERY good book dealing with this subject. It's called "Toxic Psychiatry"
Basically, just to give you the basics there are two problems
1. Psychiatrist do not do psychiatry any more, they just prescribe mediations. Anyone with a minor problem or a bad day is labelled as clinically depressed and given anti-depressants as a fix it all super-pill.
2. These drugs, like every other drug, make the user form a dependancy on them. So in other words when the patients stop taking the drugs they can't get their 'high' anymore and become even more SEVERLY depressed and prone to suicide, murder, just about anything.
2a. The Columbine students who went on a shooting spree in their school were prescribed antidepressants (I believem, prozac). When they stopped taking them look at what happened.
2b. If those kids went through the normal process like every other kid they would have just survived the torment of high schoool, moved on to college, and made fun of all the jocks and losers who now work at the Mcdonalds. Also, if they went to a psychiatrist who DIDN'T prescribe drugs and just actually let them TALK about their problems, seek solutions, úse real psychiatry, these kids might just have helped themselves and saved their lives and the lives of all those other kids in school
Wasalaam Aleikum Warahmatullah Wabarakatu
P.S. You can buy it MUCH cheaper here:
I just wanted you to see the picture. (Thank you Hassan for the previous examples of which to follow)on December 28, 2004 11:36 AM
Jazak Allah Khair Rami San:
I thought so...in that if the anti-depressants are targeting the same part of brain that soothes your "nerve" or "feelings" then it would have to be something your brain will crave again and again as a stimulus...hence being addictive as any illegal narcotics.
So now you have legal, professional doctors prescribing (subtle form) of addictive medicine to their depressing patients...Subhan'Allah!
Well, I hope none of you brothers and sisters who are aiming to embrace the noble profession of being a healer/doctor will adhere to these kind of prognosis and cure as the current folks in the medical profession...Insha'Allah.
Thanks for the book recommendation, but I will pass...You have already, very efficently, summarized the main pointers of the book.
Ma'Assalaamaon December 28, 2004 1:09 PM
As Salaamu Alaikum
MASHALLAH i loved this poem
May ALLAH giove us all hidaya
Ameenon December 28, 2004 1:33 PM
Sometimes I wonder (just like u guys do), if all folks on this earth were muslims, all nations, all cultures with their nuances were in the fold of Islaam and everyone understood who Allah is and Prophet Muhammad (sal-lal-la-hu-wa-sal-lam) as the last messenger and everyone had access/read The Quraan.
Then...would the world be a safer place, a nicer place, a more God fearing place, a more Humane place for all of us to live our lives and for the next generation?
If yes, then shouldn’t we muslims of today build the infrastructure for the next generation to expand upon, then shouldn’t we facilitate the means and ways for the sons and daughters of tomorrow to continue this dawah work...it should be a continuous, transparent and seamless transition for the muslims of tomorrow to take the banner of Islaam and raise it to even higher levels by the Grace & Mercy of Allah...Ameen
Everything else, all other priorities are tertiary in its value and nature! Do you agree?
Conversely, If this world is not going to be a nicer and safer and God Fearing place for us and our kids, even though we were all one community under the banner of Islaam, (lets assume this scenario by considering all the muslim nations of today as the only humanity on earth) then what should be our priority? Then what kind of Jihad/struggle we will have to do in the short term vs longterm? What will define success in an all Islamic society?
Please feel free to comment...take any part of this if you like and put your two cents of insight and wisdom, Insha'Allah.
on December 28, 2004 6:24 PM
Well the problem that Br. Rami is talking about is a central one between the practice of psychiatrists and psychologists.
psychiatrists- go to med school, come out, prescribe medication.
psychologists- get a phd, come out, use more traditional (non-prescription) therapy. These days they can get you a prescription too, but they like to stick to therapy.on December 28, 2004 7:06 PM
And Amani, I LOVE this poem mashaAllah.
Yeah, I have noticed that too. People who I would think to have the 'perfect' lives would often be the most depressed and feel the most empty. Its truly an eye-opener for those of us who think 'we' have problems.on December 28, 2004 7:11 PM
Jazakum'Allah khair Bint and Justoju. :)
What's really sad is that this is the state of the world today. Women and girls are pulled this way and that, brainwashed to believe they should look like the people they see on the magazine covers and made to feel inferior and inadequate when (in their eyes) they do not match up with it. I've heard beautiful people tell me they're ugly and thin people tell me they are fat. Sometimes it's annoying but most times it's just sad.
And Br. Asif: I know of two people on Antidepressants (well, one doesn't take it anymore). From my understanding, it doesn't take away the pain, but it helps them cope, to deal with the world and get on with their lives. For a person who is severly depressed, just getting up in the morning is a struggle and for somethe medication helps them function "normally".
I remember being very upset when one of them (both are non-Muslims) told me she was being put on anti-depressants. It may resolve the symptoms, but it will not cure the cause.on December 28, 2004 7:49 PM
Asalaam Aleikum Warahmatullah Wabarakatu,
Wasalaam Aleikum Warahmatullah Wabarakatuon December 29, 2004 3:52 AM
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