"At Light, brothers and sisters dance the night away to a seductive rhythm of words and glances. In this dance, sisters pretend to possess the innate shyness they know brothers go ga-ga mad over. Brothers put on their best Brad Pitt imitation, pretending not to notice the fresh meat making itself available to them. Now usually, dancing at a regular club comes in the form of bodily movement, but in the case of Light, it's a dance of the Gaze. All over the place, eyes shift up, down, left and right. Duets take shape from across the lobby, with constantly stolen glances and smiles. 'Tee hee hee' say the girls, 'Yeah playah' say the boys. Zina also doesn't take its usual bodily shape (well, at least most of the time), because at Light, zina of the eyes is the intoxicant of the night. Instead of the haze of smoke and strobe lights (again, for the most part), perfumed air entrances the brothers, while sisters are swept off their feet by Sweaty Samsons. Then the conversations -ahem, flirting- begins, but for now this description shall suffice."
This really happens?
Astaghfirullaah and damn.on March 19, 2006 7:15 PM
Whats a Sweaty Samson?on March 19, 2006 11:03 PM
"Samson" as in "Samson & Delilah." I don't have the slightest idea what the "Sweaty" part means.on March 19, 2006 11:31 PM
Okay, too many people have been asking, so let me clarify :)
Samson, as Br Gillette elucidated for us, is indeed a reference to Samson & Delilah. Now about "sweat"... in clubs and "heated" gatherings such as this, people are always sweating (yet others still find them appealing). The reference to being "swept off thier feet" is a play on words to do with the sweat falling onto the ground and sweeping them off, as well as the perhaps incomprehensible state of mind that causes a Sweaty Samson to look good.
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"The reference to being 'swept off thier feet' is a play on words to do with the sweat falling onto the ground and sweeping them off, as well as the perhaps incomprehensible state of mind that causes a Sweaty Samson to look good."
Note to self: run a few laps before the AlMaghrib class.on March 20, 2006 2:51 PM
Maybe I didnt get my point across with my last comment. Maybe I didnt include enough e's or w's or something.
Anyway, my point was that not all women find men with their own personal sprinkler system to be attractive. Sometimes we just think they need to bathe more. Or maybe not get worked up to the point of perspiration from a conference.
Think about it. Sweaty men later become fat sweaty uncles. Attractive? I dont think so.on March 20, 2006 7:08 PM
LOL JUSTOJU that was hysterical...lol subhanAllah..but well said:)
Br. Talal, great prespective.on March 20, 2006 10:05 PM
I wasnt trying to be facetious. I just dont want maritally-frustrated men reading this article, leaving their anti-perspirant at home, and stinking up our conference halls.on March 20, 2006 11:20 PM
Assalama alaikoum warahmatu allahi wabarakatuh
I think u guys missed the point of the article if you are discussing sweat and how appealing it is. Especially with opposite genders. Fear Allah.on March 20, 2006 11:30 PM
Salamualaikum Wa Rahmatullah
MashAllah well written Talal Bhai. Keep me in your duas. Take care .
Ma Salaamon March 21, 2006 11:00 AM
jazakAllah Khair for highlighting this issue, it's a pandemic that needs to be addressed
---> "Islam began as something strange, and it shall return to being something strange, so give glad tidings to the strangers.
(Recorded by Muslim, Attirmidthi, Ibn Majah, and Ahmad)
This hadith of the Prophet (salAllaahu 'alayhi wa sallam) tells us that we are supposed to be different. It's a litmus test for us, especially in regards to the interaction between brothers and sisters in Islam. <----
Let's liberate ourselves from our base desires, let's liberate ourselves from the desires of others, let's bring true inner and outer modesty in ourselves and experience what freedom really is...
Oh Allah convert all our immodest desires and attractions into good and direct it towards You and Our Beloved Rasulullah (Salallahu 'alayhi wasallam)
Br. Talal, very very interesting piece...Alhamdulillah, that you mentioned this.
I have some comments and reflections, If I may:
1- If we were in a muslim country, and we had a group of brothers & sisters talking/chatting with each other, in a public space, this would probably not seem out of place...I am referring to countries like Egypt and/or Pakistan. Same could be said about Malaysia and Indonesia....These may be similar to scenario depicted above.
2- Weakness of the heart leads to all kinds of compromises, especially on something that is tempting and against the Shariah. Our young brothers & sisters have found a way to reflect this within a public setting. This is their way of hinting to their parents and family members their coming of age. Meaning they are at an age where they can be married to the right person....Surprisingly, many parents choose to ignore this tell tale signs from their offsprings.
3- What you sow is what you reap...if parents have not brought up their daughters and sons to be modest and deliberate in their interactions with the opposite gender (under all circumstances/settings), what then is the use of blowing the gasket on similar actions suggested above?
4- Opposite will attract, this is how Allah has made this among a sign for Humans. What nobody talks about is HOW to Channel this attraction to the right person at the right time...Subhan'Allah.
Anyways...Human relationship Dynamics is very complex, but the Best examples of how it is done, is reflected in the life of our Beloved prophet Muhammad (sal-lal-la-hu-wa-sal-lam).
Hey I just attended FOL, and that class rekindled many of my thoughts on Gender Interactions...Alhamdulillah.on March 21, 2006 5:57 PM
Just wanted to say salam and that I have not forgotten Hidaya. Please keep me in your prayers as I will be flying tomorrow to get my nikah done.
Nice piece Talal but I think a fire article will do more justice to this topic.
lol.on March 23, 2006 11:34 AM
Ya akhee writer#34, there's never a reason to compromise in this issue. All you listed are excuses, but no excuse justifies a haraam.
Even if we're in a Muslim country, such interaction isn't permitted, and if we engage in it, or encourage it, we're wrong. The majority isn't the rule in Islam.
The reason to "blow the gasket" is because accepting the existence of these "clubs" is nothing but detrimental to the present and future of the Ummah. This is just the condition right now, you don't want to know what it evolves into.on March 23, 2006 2:24 PM
Br. Faisal, May Allah Bless you in this marriage, and may this union be a vessel for you and your wife to come closer to Allah as HIS humble servants, in this life and in the hereafter...Ameen
Br. Talal, I agree with you completely, excuses can never justify a haraam act. May Allah save all of us from falling in this trap...Ameen
My comments were merely a reflection (and not what you suggested) on our Ummah, of us being reactive and not pro-active in addressing the core issues that begets vices and ill actions, when it comes to gender interactions among us muslims.
"On February 19, 2006 12:36 AM Talal said:
Assalaamu alaikum wa rahmatullaah
As it was suggested in the comments that were removed, this is not the place to have a discussion for the sake of discussion. The issues mentioned are meant to be addressed to those with knowledge, and there is no benefit to be derived from our lackluster attempts at answering.
The learned do not have the time to ponder hypotheticals, and nor should we. If an issue exists, it should be sent to those who know, not HidayaOnline.com
There's just too much chance for something dangerous happening.
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Very predictable :)
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Ma'Assalaamaon March 24, 2006 12:03 PM
Howchanmanowchanon March 24, 2006 8:50 PM
As Salaamu Alaikum
Jazakallah bro for digging out the dirt about these issues-its about time we stopped seeing these things happening and just looking the other way.Whats wrong is wrong.The gaze is a poisoned arrow of shaitaan.And what does poison do? It spreads. So never can we say its 'just' a glance.How long is our Iman going to be strong enough to take these poisonous wounds we inflict on it? Can any of us claim it is strong enough to even take just take one arrow? Without Iman we are doomed to destruction. It it worth it to put our Iman,our most precious asset,at stake for a few moments of pleasure? Never ever.
We are also told that Allah is with the broken hearted,thus when we lower our gazes out of the fear of Allah,we CRUSH our desires and weaken our nafs.That is when,insha Allah,ALLAH TA'ALA will enter that broken heart and what sweetness of Iman is felt after that can only be experienced to be explained.
May Allah grant us all Hidaya and Taqwa in all facets of our life.Ameen.
on March 30, 2006 4:15 AM
"We are also told that Allah is with the broken hearted,thus when we lower our gazes out of the fear of Allah,we CRUSH our desires and weaken our nafs.That is when,insha Allah,ALLAH TA'ALA will enter that broken heart and what sweetness of Iman is felt after that can only be experienced to be explained."
Masha'Allah wal Alhamdulillah...spoken like a believer.
May Allah bless you sister, and your family, and loved ones in this life and in the hereafter...Ameen
Ma'Assalaamaon March 30, 2006 9:29 AM
masha Allah to the editors , good decision. May Allah guide us all to success.ameenon March 30, 2006 2:23 PM
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Ma'Assalaamaon March 31, 2006 3:20 PM
SubhanAllah well said ...well said.on March 31, 2006 7:14 PM
Asalaam alaikum everyone,
I was looking for a specific hadith this morning, and although I didn't find it, I came across this one. Wanted to share it with my fellow hidayans. Pure motivation to start the day:
The Messenger of Allah [sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam] said: "Some people will come on the Day of Judgement and their Imaan will be outstanding, it's light will shine from their chests and from their right hands.
So it will be said to them, 'Glad tidings for you today, Assalamu 'alaikum and Goodness for you, Enter into it (Jannah) forever!'
So the Angels and the Prophets will be jealous of the Love of Allah for them."
So the Sahabah asked, "Who are they, Ya Rasoolullah?"
He [sallahu 'alayhi wasalam] replied,
"They are not from us and they are not from you. You are my companions but they are my beloved. They will come after you and will find the Book (the Qur'an) made redundant by the people, and a Sunnah which has been killed by them. So they will grab hold of the Book and the Sunnah and revive them.
So they read them and teach them (the Qur'an and the Sunnah) to the people and they will experience in that path a punishment more severe and more ugly than what you (O Sahabah) have experienced.
Indeed the Imaan of one of them is equivalent to the Imaan of forty of you.
The Shaheed of one of them is equivalent to forty of your Shuhadaa'. Because you found a helper towards the truth (the Prophet) and they will find no helper towards the truth.
So they will be surrounded by tyrant rulers in every place, and they will be in the surroundings of Bait-ul-Maqdis (Al-Quds, Masjid al-Aqsa). The Nussrah (Help and Victory) of Allah will come to them, and they will have the honour of it on their hands."
Then he [sallahu 'alayhi wasalam] said, "O Allah, give them the Nussrah and make them my close friends in Jannah."
- Reported in Ahmadon April 1, 2006 8:43 PM
Where'd you read this? Who narrated it? Is it authentic?on April 1, 2006 10:24 PM
Reported by Ahmed #17561, chain #77. Hasan according to Ibn Hajr al-Haythami.on April 1, 2006 11:52 PM
Subhan'Allah that is beautiful! Jazaki ALlahu khayr for sharing. Also, great article, the day I read it I had just come back from some crazy 'islamic' fitnah and was greatly disturbed that some practicing Muslims give very little thought to gender interaction.. It was so refreshing to come home and read all my thoughts in a peice that gave me hope there are still ppl out there who think similarly.on April 2, 2006 1:51 PM
Jazakum Allahu khayr for addressing this issue. I can honestly say that gender interactions between Muslims are getting even worse and worse, no matter where you go. Props for the analogy in your article and for putting things in perspective.on April 6, 2006 9:35 PM
Hey folks Assalaamu Alaikum,
wow, hidayaonline is pretty much the same, huh?
First off, Congratulations to Br. Faisal for his marriage, may Allaah bless your spouse for you and you for her, ameen.
Second off, interesting articles, I have'nt read this one yet but I read the "mating ritual" one of Br. Talal(ok really partially though) and I must say with the language and expression Br. Talaal uses, he doesnt need anyone else for hidaya (I mean when he writes and the beat goes, wow, very poetic and with imagery). But that doesnt mean all the other writers are not superb, bil aqs, they are excellent.
Third off, you guys cannot get off the topic of marriage. Once ALL the staff of hidayaonline is married, they will realize it is no big deal. It is like having a semi-permanent roommate, except if the roommate doesnt work, cooks, cleans, then you have a semi-servant, which is really excellent.
I am in jolly mood, no sarcasm, irony, bitterness.
Oh, I know Br. Hassan doesn't advertise Masjid Rahma event, but if you dont mind putting up the conference info for the summer by Masjid Rahma, I'd greatly appreciate it.on April 20, 2006 3:29 PM
oh, I meant that if the roommate does all of those above things mentioned, then it is excellento! not to mean sarcastically, etc. TYPOon April 20, 2006 5:10 PM
I wanted to ask a question on the hadith sister Saima, shared with us, ma shaa Allaah, very powerful hadeeth.
I think, could it mean the people at the time of the mahdi? as people near baitul maqdas. Did anyone verify where the hadeeth is mentioned and the context.
i had heard that people from later generations will be rewarded more as the Prophet SAW is not with us to teach us and our imaan and what we go through, wallaahu alim, I had heard of that before, not sure though.on January 12, 2007 6:05 PM